Bored of "hanging out"? That's okay

December 31, 2018

Some people like to go with the flow.

If a friend asks them to "hang out", they will typically say yes. They didn't have anything else planned anyway. And if the hanging out results in everybody in the group looking at their phones, they're fine with that.

These people will eat what others eat, do what others do, and think what others think. They go for the lowest common denominator.

If you're not like that, that's okay.

Needing a better reason to meet people is a good thing. It means you value your time. It means you have strong preferences.

When your friends ask you to hang out and you think it would be boring, then it's perfectly fine not to. Even if your "friends" peer pressure you. Maybe you'd love to spend time with them playing squash, visiting an escape room, or taking a photography workshop. But you don't want to "hang out"—you have better things to do.

Most people are happy fitting in with the majority. There's nothing wrong with that.

But you might have very specific preferences for what you like to do and what you don't like to do. And there's nothing wrong with that, either.

Yours,

— Peter

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