“What do you do?”
That hasn’t been my favorite question in the world for the past few years.
Three years ago, I’d answer that I was a litigation consultant. Even though most people didn’t know what the litigation part of that meant, it was enough to allow them to mentally label me.
When I quit my job, I started responding that I wasn’t working at the moment. Almost everyone would follow up with, “So you study then?” Nope, I wasn’t studying either.
For many people, that just did not compute. Here I was, in my twenties, looking healthy—and I wasn’t working or studying?!
When I finally figured out that I was suffering from burnout, and I started telling people that, the answer became easier. People could label me again.
These days, I still can’t give an answer that’s both short and accurate, because I don’t know what I do. There are a few promising business ideas and opportunities that I’m exploring, but I haven’t settled on one yet.
And you know what? That’s okay!
It took a few years, but I’ve finally accepted that it might take me a while to figure out my new identity.
It’s better than sticking with an old identity that no longer fits.