Your work should make you feel good

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I was a guest on a podcast today and the host asked me how I got into coaching. So I spoke about my background as a corporate consultant.

I mentioned that my job in litigation consulting didn’t generate warm and fuzzy feelings. The company I worked for helped other companies—often very large ones—win litigation. There are more details to it than that, but the gist is that I helped big companies save money.

There was no motivation for me there. I delivered great work because I took pride in my work and in myself—not because I cared about our clients’ success. I cared about our clients to the extent that I wanted to deliver on our promises, but it’s not like I was happy when a client saved $10 million. Those savings didn’t make me feel anything one way or the other.

Today, when I coach people, I see changes happening. I see a client go from timid, disorganized, and unsure to confident, efficient, and with a clarity of purpose. And makes me feel good when my clients have success.

My work directly makes me feel good—as well as having obvious benefits for my clients.

Does your work make you feel good? If not, find better work!

Yours,

— Peter

P.S. I’ll share the link to the podcast episode with you when it gets published.

P.P.S. I still have a one-on-one coaching spot available at a reduced price. It’s €699 now for three months of one-on-one coaching. Apply for a discovery call now to get in at the lower price.

Maybe you gave up too soon!

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So, it didn’t work out. You failed. You badly wanted it, but you didn’t achieve your goal.

You’re not cut out for this. This isn’t your thing. You should focus on other things, the things you’re already good at.

What if that’s all a big pile of bullshit?

What if you simply gave up too soon?

What if you could have had the exact result you want, if only you’d kept trying for longer? What if you had been more patient? What if you had just kept on trucking?

Your brain, just like everyone else’s, is capable of neuroplasticity. You can learn to get good by trying over and over and over again.

Consider that your failure might not be because you simply suck at this, or because you didn’t try hard enough, or because you don’t have “it”.

Consider that it might be, simply, that you gave up too soon.

And if you did give up too soon, what will you do about it?

Yours,

— Peter

P.S. How do you figure out whether you quit too soon? Let’s talk about it in a free discovery call.

How to start a healthy habit in 2019

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Looking to make a positive change in your life? Got some New Year’s resolutions? Want to start a healthy habit?

Then follow this blueprint.

  1. Focus on one change at a time. Plan to cook healthy meals, rather than planning to cook healthy meals and to start going to the gym and to drink less alcohol. You can make all these changes over time, but if you try to change them all at once, the risk is too high that you’ll fail, be discouraged, and stop completely.
  2. Frame your change in positive terms. For example, resolve to cook a healthy meal twice a week rather than setting a vague intention to “eat no more junk food”. By framing your change positively, you won’t get so down on yourself if you’re not 100% disciplined. You also focus on your wins, which will motivate you to continue.
  3. Start small. Cook a healthy meal once a week. Go to the gym three times a week—but lift modestly. Meditate for three minutes per day. Start your new habits on this order of magnitude. Then, once you’ve made this small start a consistent habit, go further. Cook a healthy meal twice a week, lift heavier weights, or meditate for five minutes a day.
  4. Use an accountability buddy. Ask someone to keep you accountable, in a positive way. Have them ask you whether you have done x yet today. Or have them join you—if you want to build a habit of running regularly, then run with a friend. Just be careful that you don’t let your partner demotivate you. If you decide to go running together and your friend flakes—run anyway.

What habit are you trying to develop right now?

Yours,

— Peter

P.S. To get serious about accountability, consider joining my one-on-one coaching program. I’m offering €100 off of three months of one-on-one coaching for the first two people who respond. That makes it €699, instead of the usual €799.

Just do it 341 times

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I’ve written 341 blog posts now. Writing one is not stressful anymore. It’s routine.

What scares you? What stresses you out?

Maybe it’s going on a date, or speaking in front of a crowd.

Do it 341 times.

Then come back and tell me whether it still scares you.

Yours,

— Peter

You have to want to walk the path

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Let’s say I know exactly what you need to do to get the result you want.

I can tell you which steps to take, what mindset to cultivate, and how to deal with setbacks. I can make the work as simple as possible.

None of that will make any difference if you don’t want to do the work.

I can show you the path, but I can’t make you walk it.

Yours,

— Peter